[N]o other group in the church is discussed primarily in terms of sex as gay and lesbian people are. I would imagine that in terms of sheer power of sexual urgency and desire, adolescents and young adults are probably the people most interested in sexual activity out of the entire human population. Yet, church leaders do not always refer to sexual temptation when they discuss or welcome young people to the church, as they do with gay and lesbian people. The focus of youth ministry in dioceses and parishes is not on sexual behavior, as some dioceses and parishes would like gay and lesbian outreach to be. Young people’s concerns are not shunned or ignored because it might seem to give the indication that church leaders are approving of non-marital sexual activity, yet that is routinely done to gay and lesbian people. ...
In addition to being thought of primarily as sinners, lesbian and gay people resent that they are thought of primarily as sexual, as if no other aspect of their life mattered, and as if that was the primary factor defining their lives.YES! this is it. The people opposed to LGBT equal rights are obsessed with gay sex. And because they are obsessed with sex, they assume we are too. The language they use for our lives and our loves is degradingly animalistic.
They treat us as a "them", a remote species, sex-crazed, unable to have real relationships.
Oh, they "love" us. Sure. While they fight to prevent our marriages, fire us for getting married when we can, and fire teachers for saying anything positive about civil marriage.
And of course we take it personally. Because no one is getting fired for using birth control, or supporting their cousin's marriage (which just might be after a divorce).
I suspect a lot of this is because the experience the Bishops have with same-sexuality is based on furtive, closeted sex. After all, given estimates that upwards of half the priesthood is gay, that's the only exposure they have. And if the only measure you have for sexuality is hidden and illicit, that's what you assume everyone experiences.
Now, let's just unpack this a little more. Cincinnati, Oakland, and other dioceses have written teacher contracts that require teachers to avoid saying anything positive about marriage equality. Because "endorsing" homosexuality is a deep sin, and what a teacher says in their private lives impacts the church.
So, yeah, LGBT people get that the Bishops of the Catholic Church despise us as uniquely dangerous sexual sinners.
(Just to be clear, I am NOT speaking here about individual Catholics who remain great supporters and proponents of justice, but the Official Church.)