Saturday, June 4, 2016

Predators don't need a bathroom

So to those of you who think you’re being helpful by “protecting” me and my fellow women, you’re like a shark sitting in the lifeguard chair. I wasn’t uncomfortable until you showed up at the pool and the only potential predator I see is you. 
Your mothers, sisters, girlfriends, wives and daughters don’t need you to walk them to the bathroom for safety. Your fathers, brothers, friends and sons need to walk themselves away from their own double standards. Women are sexually harassed and sexually assaulted on school campuses, on the street, at their jobs, on the Internet, in their own homes, in ANY public place. And it has been excused or ignored for so long because of what you and I are taught from the first years of our interactions with each other: You, as a male, are not accountable for your own actions. It’s MY responsibility, as a female, to not “provoke” you. But then you get to knight-in-shining-armor your way through life for those in your protected categories and I am expected to applaud you. Why the outrage now over bathrooms? Why aren’t you outraged every single day? 
If you’re telling me that there are high volumes of boys and men out there, in schools or in general, who are just waiting for a “loop-hole” to sexually assault girls and women, we have bigger problems on our hands than bathrooms.

1 comment:

PseudoPiskie said...

In the 1950s Mom was turned down for a volunteer position with Planned Parenthood because she believed that males should be taught to use "rubbers". She also advocated that men should be taught that women are not playthings and should be treated with respect. She would have taught that rape doesn't have anything to do with sex but was simply a man bullying a woman to prove himself. In the early 50s that attitude was not popular. The women needed to not provoke men who were incapable of controlling their urges. She held that attitude her 93 years and got mad whenever men seemed coddled. Both Dad and my stepfather agreed.