The discussion in the thread below has tackled the thorny issue of the idea of boycotting companies or individuals for their support of Prop-8/hate. On the face of it, yeah, sure! our reaction is, boycott anyone who supported it! but real life is messy and I think we need to consider that we live in shades of gray, not black and white. I think we all need to examine our consciences before we make sweeping decisions.
Item: the Marriott hotel chain, a publicly owned company, has a perfect rating from the Human Rights Campaign as a gay friendly employer.
So, does it matter that Marriott himself is a Mormon, who did not directly donate to Yes on 8? Is simply BEING a Mormon now an afront? What about the Catholics? It was their votes that hurt us. Are we starting a pogram against some religions? This makes me VERY uncomfortable--a company that is positive for our community, an owner who did not overtly support the proposition, being targeted.
But what about Brett Andrus, a major prop8 supporter who owns several Mariotts in Utah? Does it make more sense to boycott him? Or Doug Manchester in San Diego, owner of the Manchester Grand Hyatt, who gave $125,000 but who says his hotel "welcomes" gays and lesbians. (He's Catholic). What about boycotting them? These men both made major material contributions for Prop8, so it seems more justified to target them.
Item: The artistic director of the California Musical Theatre "resigned" after his $1000 donation to Yes-on-8 became known.
How is it any different, when gays hound a conservative to lose his jobs, from conservatives firing a gay for being homosexual? Yes, it is hard to think that those we work with would hurt us so casually. But in this country, even the bad guys have free speech.
Item: The owner of EL Coyote restaurant in Los Angeles gave $100 to the campaign because her (Mormon) church told her to. Her restaurant, which employs gays and is considered gay friendly, is now being boycotted.
So, the owner made a minimal contribution under pressure from her church. Unlike the hoteliers above who gave hundreds of thousands of dollars, she did the minimum. What is accomplished here?
Sure, some people aligned against us include bigots and haters, but they also include our co-workers, our friends, our family, and the people who will have to CHANGE THEIR VOTES and support us, if we are to repeal Prop8.
Boycotts should be rendered like a scalpel, not an axe. I think there is a huge difference in a $100 contribution and a $100,000 contribution. We have to be better than the hate-filled lying Yes-on-8 campaign, are and convert them to our side.
This is about hearts and minds, and winning them. We will continue to live, work, and for those inclined, pray with those who are against us. Let's remember that and bring them on board.
So if you are joining the protests this weekend, around the country, please remember:
Keep it peaceful. No violence to persons or property. Marriage is about love: by our love they will know us, haven't I heard that somewhere?
Keep it positive. Don't attack the Mormons or the Catholics. WIN THEM OVER. Surprising numbers of them are already with us....did I mention that my wedding had MAJOR Catholic participation? I am suggesting to my beloved that she make a sign that says "Gay - Married - Catholic!"
We can't simply rely on the courts. We have to win the people too.